How to get from “It SUCKS” to “It Rocks”
If you didn’t know, I just spent the past three months moving my family from New Bremen, Ohio, to Troy, Ohio.
And to be honest, the whole moving process SUCKS!
Decluttering. Showing the old house. The negotiations. Packing. Moving. Unpacking. Finding new doctors. Starting trash services …
Need I go on?
All of it was overwhelming.
And at the top of my, “This is hard,” list is leaving behind my friends and colleagues. You know, my peeps.
Our new home is a short 40-minute drive from New Bremen, a small town, to Troy, a larger-small town.
You wouldn’t think it would be such a big deal. But it is an ocean of corn fields away from my supportive, loving friends, and my deep connection to my community.
I feel a bit lost and scared.
But, I know this is exactly where I am supposed to be. And the truth is, it is really okay.
Because moving—or any transition or change we make in our lives—is scary and uncomfortable.
It can throw you into a cyclone of chaos with a lot of blaming, anger, and isolation.
It can get ugly.
I remember feeling an underlying restlessness years ago when I moved to New Bremen (the little town I am now mourning.)
In my eyes in those early days, there was NOTHING GOOD about New Bremen. It lacked diversity and culture; it was heavy with conservative views; and worst of all, it was a 75-minute drive from a decent mall.
So what changed? I did.
I changed my mindset and took some action.
It took a few months, but I realized my thoughts and limiting beliefs about my new home made me feel miserable. So, I decided to start looking for the good instead of focusing on all the bad.
It turns out, all the things that I labeled as “wrong” with the place became opportunities for me to help. I helped revitalize a non-profit that brings professional performing arts to the town, I started a group that welcomes new families relocating to the area, and many other projects.
The community responded to my change of heart with support, respect and friendship.
BUT, the huge opportunity that changed everything for me was my decision to reinvent my business there. Zeal Coaching blossomed (actually I blossomed) in a town of 3,000 people.
Here are my former negative thoughts and the reframes that helped me.
Notice this is more than just positive thinking. I reframed my thoughts, which is something I teach my clients.
People are not welcoming here. Reframe: I can welcome and invite others.
This town has nothing to offer. Reframe: What can I offer and enrich here?
People will never accept me here. Reframe: I can offer people acceptance and support.
This town is too small for me to be successful. Reframe: The tighter connections makes success easier.
And guess what?
My reframes worked! Four years as Zeal Coaching and 45 clients from the New Bremen area prove it.
SO you know it’s okay to move, to change, and grow. It is really about the mindset you choose and the power your actions have when they are aligned with that thinking.
It improves everything, even you.
Do you need help with a situation that “sucks?”
Are you stuck in a mindset that keeps you from seeing the good that’s all around you?
I can help. Contact me here to set up a FREE get-acquainted call. We’ll talk about your challenges and how I can help you over come them.
